You have got to talk to her!

Sometimes it’s good to have a heart to heart talk with yourself. Naaah, it’s not a sign of madness :D. So you regularly receive encouraging updates from Jj; on why you ought to fight the good fight of faith, and see “the greatness in you that is before you” :D. That doesn’t even make sense you say. Basically, telling you, that you mustn’t give up on life. But after about 5 mins of reading it, your immediately uplifted mood is slapped back to the reality of your predicament, and the difference between what she’s told you and what you’re faced with.

Yeah, she can say whatever she wants to say, but she’s not living your life. It’s not that easy you know, to have hope, to have faith, to look beyond where you are and believe that you will one day get to a great place.

Sometimes “suga” you need to communicate with yourself. It’s not a sign of madness or weakness! You need to remind yourself of all the great things you’ve got going on in your life, and why the Joy of your Salvation, Jesus Christ – not wealth, not titles, not positions – is the SINGLE MOST important thing in life. And why everything else, yeah that great job, business, great and wonderful things, are just merely benefits of your salvation, which you will ultimately have. Your state of what you’re calling “poverty” in wealth, career, business, even in marriage will never always remain the way they are. Change is constant, and one day you will ask yourself, why you worried your life silly. Your faith in Jesus Christ, and Rest for your soul means that you are already an overcomer. And it’s just a matter of when, when everything falls into place. Angel, talk to yourself! So stop wasting your life, your time on fleeting accessories and focus on what’s important. You are alive, you are healthy and you have Jesus. Girl, you were born for greatness, and even if it tarries, you will get there. I hope you get what I’m saying. It’s Friday and it’s sunny outside, so put your stunners on, go get yourself a nice low fat yogurt, and mix in some mango pieces. Delicious! Yeah, I’m off to do just that. Enjoy yourself, life is wonderful and you my dearest you are already on your way to greatness :D. #HappyFridayEveryone #JesusIsReal #EverythingElseIsCounterfeit

Your roots does not define your height

The height of your tree is not determined by your roots!

Your life’s pinnacle is not determined by your roots!

Your roots does not define how far you grow in life!

You’re probably thinking give me a break Lifeofstranger, like seriously? That’s a contradiction in itself. We know from everything we’ve been taught the significance of a plant’s roots in defining how tall is grows or how big it becomes. A “tree” will put out roots as long as the branches, and as deep as the height . . . to counter-balance the tree. But I’m taken you somewhere.

I’ve read in wikipedia the major functions of the roots which are: absorption of water and inorganic nutrients, anchoring of the plant body to the ground, and supporting it, storage of food and nutrients, and so forth.

But What if you were born with a root that was so bad that it couldn’t effectively support, nourish and enable you to get to your expected heights, does that then mean that you should then give up? Or even better, suppose you were born with the roots of a grass, should that then prevent you from desiring to be as big as say the coast redwood? That’s an impossible thinking right?

Our Opening Bible verse for today and our memory verse for today is:

Psalm 136:23 of New International Reader’s Version (NIRV) reads: Give thanks to the One who remembered us when things were going badly for us. His faithful love continues forever.

Your life’s pinnacle is not determined by your roots!

Can we please turn to our Bibles, to 1st Samuel 9:1-4

There was a Benjamite, a man of standing, whose name was Kish son of Abiel, the son of Zeror, the son of Bekorath, the son of Aphiah of Benjamin. Kish had a son named Saul, as handsome a young man as could be found anywhere in Israel, and he was a head taller than anyone else. Now the donkeys belonging to Saul’s father Kish were lost, and Kish said to his son Saul, “Take one of the servants with you and go and look for the donkeys.” So he passed through the hill country of Ephraim and through the area around Shalisha, but they did not find them. They went on into the district of Shaalim, but the donkeys were not there. Then he passed through the territory of Benjamin, but they did not find them.

Vs. 5-6: When they reached the district of Zuph, Saul said to the servant who was with him, “Come, let’s go back, or my father will stop thinking about the donkeys and start worrying about us.” But the servant replied, “Look, in this town there is a man of God; he is highly respected, and everything he says comes true. Let’s go there now. Perhaps he will tell us what way to take.”

Vs 15-17: Now the day before Saul came, the Lord had revealed this to Samuel: “About this time tomorrow I will send you a man from the land of Benjamin. Anoint him ruler over my people Israel; he will deliver them from the hand of the Philistines. I have looked on my people, for their cry has reached me.” When Samuel caught sight of Saul, the Lord said to him, “This is the man I spoke to you about; he will govern my people.”

Vs 20b-21: And to whom is all the desire of Israel turned, if not to you and your whole family line?” Saul answered, “But am I not a Benjamite, from the smallest tribe of Israel, and is not my clan the least of all the clans of the tribe of Benjamin? Why do you say such a thing to me?”

We’re probably very familiar with the story of the first anointed king over Israel, King Saul of Gibeah.

1st Samuel 9:1-2 described his background, his roots by saying: There was a Benjamite, a man of standing, whose name was Kish son of Abiel, the son of Zeror, the son of Bekorath, the son of Aphiah of Benjamin. Kish had a son named Saul, as handsome a young man as could be found anywhere in Israel, and he was a head taller than anyone else.

There is so much detail in the preceding verse concerning Saul’s Father, so that you understood his heritage, but there’s no mention of Kish having other children aside from Saul; i.e., there’s no mention of Saul having siblings. Rather when we were introduced to the man Saul we were told he “Saul was the most handsome man in Israel–head and shoulders taller than anyone else in the land.”

Not many Sunday’s ago Pastor Toyin Adegoke taught us on some of the characteristics the Jew Esther had, who defied her circumstances and became queen, and one of those KEY characteristics was that “she was beautiful”.

Now back to my message today, the People of Israel wanted a king like the kind all the other nations had. If we head over to 1 Samuel 8:5  it says: “Look,” they told him, “you are now old, and your sons are not like you. Give us a king to judge us like all the other nations have.” [NLT] 1 Samuel 8:5

To ask for a king “like all the nations” suggests that the children of Israel wanted a big strong guy, like the rest of the nations-an all-powerful leader who would make all the decisions so that they could sit back and throw off that heavy burden of responsibility that they’ve had to deal with on a day-to-day basis.

And one of the characteristics of Saul described in 1 Samuel 9:2 – met exactly what they wanted. A strong man, like Saul who was head and shoulders taller and bigger than any man in Isreal.

Your life’s pinnacle is not determined by your roots!

In Deuteronomy 17:14-15 (would you like to go there) Moses had prophesied as He spoke to the children of Israel in his farewell speech:

“When you enter the land the LORD your God is giving you and have taken possession of it and settled in it, and you say, “Let us set a king over us like all the nations around us,” be sure to appoint over you a king the LORD your God chooses. He must be from among your fellow Israelites. Do not place a foreigner over you, one who is not an Israelite.”

If we go further in Deut 17:16-20,the model King, fit enough to rule Israel was described: He must not acquire great numbers of horses for himself or make the people return to Egypt to get more of them, for the LORD has told you, “You are not to go back that way again.” He must not take many wives, or his heart will be led astray. He must not accumulate large amounts of silver and gold. When he takes the throne of his kingdom, he is to write for himself on a scroll a copy of this law, taken from that of the Levitical priests. It is to be with him, and he is to read it all the days of his life so that he may learn to revere the LORD his God and follow carefully all the words of this law and these decrees and not consider himself better than his fellow Israelites and turn from the law to the right or to the left. Then he and his descendants will reign a long time over his kingdom in Israel.

So basically in a nutshell, the children of Israel must only appoint a man God has chosen, he must be a scholar of God’s word, a leader, pious, righteous and God-fearing. Their choice must not be determined by the outward appearance (that is, not big and strong as the people of Israel wanted).

But we’ve read previously in 1 Samuel 9: 16-17 what God told Samuel: “About this time tomorrow I will send you a man from the land of Benjamin. Anoint him ruler over my people Israel; he will deliver them from the hand of the Philistines. I have looked on my people, for their cry has reached me. “When Samuel caught sight of Saul, the LORD said to him, “This is the man I spoke to you about; he will govern my people.”

that He was going to send to him the man he has chosen to lead Israel. So even though the people wanted a King like the other nations, and Saul appeared to meet their requirements, God had predestined Saul before time to be used to deliver His people from the tyranny of the philistines and to govern His people.

So check this, does that then mean the people’s wishes influenced God’s choice? Since God, from whom all knowledge flows, knew that there will be a time when the children of Israel would want a king like other nations, which even Moses in Deut. 17:14-15 prophesied, He prepared before time, a man that would meet the characteristics of their desired king, so that when the time came, the choice was available.

So my question again: does that then mean the people’s wishes influenced God’s decision, influenced God’s choice? That’s pretty deep! My answer, Of course NOT! God is Sovereign in His decisions, and Saul at this point in time was God’s choice for His people!

In the end, we know the story of how it ended for King Saul, he was rejected by God not because he wasn’t a good king. Unlike David, he was always with his soldiers in battle, he led by example, he even took his children to battle, and we know that when He died, his three sons also died in the same battle. We can compare his chivalry (interms of being in the warfronts, instead of taking the advice of your generals to leave them to do the fights for you) to David, because we were told that David wasn’t always in battle, because of certain story of when Kings went to war, David was at home admiring someone else’s wife. But that’s a story for another day. This same David, even Lamented upon hearing Saul’s death saying in 2nd Samuel 1:24: Daughters of Israel, weep for Saul, who clothed you in scarlet and finery, who adorned your garments with ornaments of gold. How the mighty have fallen in battle!

Saul was rejected by God not because he wasn’t a good king, but because He disobeyed God’s direct commands!

Your roots does not define your height

We will not dwell on Saul’s rejection as King or why he wasn’t given as many chances as the other Kings after him, like David, but we will dwell on how God took a man of unimportant background to become the highest ranking man of the land.

In 1st Samuel 10:1 the word of the Lord says: Then Samuel took a flask of olive oil and poured it on Saul’s head and kissed him, saying, “Has not the LORD anointed you ruler over his inheritance? [NIV] 1 Samuel 10:1

In vs 24 of that same chapter: Samuel said to all the people, “Do you see the man the LORD has chosen? There is no one like him among all the people.” Then the people shouted, “Long live the king!” [NIV] 1 Samuel 10:24

Your life’s pinnacle is not determined by your background!

Your natural eyes may remind you of the situations/ circumstances surrounding your birth, your life, that because of where you came from, it’s impossible for you to be the leader of many, to be the world leader in your area of choice, that even though you’re good, you’re not quite good enough for that top position. But you need to get to a point in your life to say the words “my background will not determine how high I go”. I’m sure we’re all very familiar with the bible verse, I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. [NIV] Psalm 139:14! In truth you truly are. Every design, aspects of your life was given to you for a purpose. Your height, your appearance, your build, your mind, the way you process information was endowed in you for a reason. Celebrate them!

You can’t say because I have the roots of a grass, so I am less than the mighty Oak? Yes your DNA will never be the same as the mighty OAK, but that doesn’t mean you should let your limitations prevent you from getting to your destination. NO!

No matter what, ALL things will work together for your good, why because you love the Lord and because He called you according to his purpose. His purpose, not yours! Romans 8:28 says so! That means every detour of your life, derailment of purpose, pain, strong oppositions, trials of many kinds, though not of God, will ultimately be for your benefit. It’s up to you how you see it. You may see them as an excuse to give up on the idea, on the goal, on the dream, on the purpose, or you could see it as a stepping stone to getting to where you want to be.

The height you attain in life is not determined by your roots!

You know, you can avoid the pitfall that destroyed Saul! Saul disobeyed God’s word, meaning he probably didn’t esteem it highly, he didn’t think much of it, as he should have. Therein lies a fundamental truth – Don’t ever let the word of the Lord depart from you. Don’t ever treat God’s word with contempt, like hearsay for example. I’ll let you in on a secret J God honours His words above His name, He said so in Psalm 138:2. I will worship toward Your holy temple, And praise Your name For Your loving kindness and Your truth; For You have magnified Your word above all Your name. [NKJV]

Communicate with God with His words. Remind Him of His words, because He cannot lie (Numbers 23:19). Do not forget His words. Regardless of what you may be struggling with, or what is standing in the way of your breakthrough, God’s presence is always with you and He will give you rest (Exodus 33:13-14).

You have been redeemed by the Lord and the shout of Kings is with you (Psalm 107:2). Yes you may have had a shady background, but seriously friends, you are now hanging with the Lord, and if you want to become an Oak, God sure can make you into an oak!

The eye of the Lord is always on those that fear Him, remember that, that’s what Psalm 33:18 says. And you know what that means, you may not know all the wonderful plans God has for you, but He’s wielding them all together; irrespective of your background/ your circumstance. Refuse to bow and let life’s problems derail you. Tell yourself, your look of helplessness will no longer betray your worth, because you know who you are. And because you bear the mark of the Lord, you will not be moved.

I would like to end with this: Your spiritual eyes has to look through the lens of faith and continue to remind your hearts that no matter your circumstance in life, no matter your background, or how bad it’s been, God is still able to do abundantly more than we can ever ask. However, our journey, on the road to fulfilling God’s purpose in our lives requires a great deal of cooperation from us. And only those who have made up their mind to follow Jesus regardless will make it to the finishing line. It is not going to be easy but believe me it is going to be worth it.

The height you attain in life is not dependent on your origins! Only God can lift a person. No one else! No one else!

My Waters of Distress

13110818383525Juju called last night.

How are you feeling? You’re now in your third trimester, not long now.

Yes I am very excited. My Baby’s arrival is getting closer, but I am a little worried.

Why she responded?

I just can’t seem to place my finger on it. I continued.

How’s Mr T? she asked. He’s been wonderful (I say in a voice that needed reassurance). Come to think of it she continues, the last time I saw him, he didn’t come across as overly excited. Well you know Mr T; it’s been quite difficult for us I responded. Why? She continues, wasn’t the baby planned, you can’t bring a child into this world if you don’t have the finances to take care of them. As she continued, I became more apprehensive, even more concerned than I was before the call.

Mr T had warned me on so many occasions to stop speaking with Juju. It’s as if every time after speaking with her, I come away feeling terribly unsettled, taking out my frustration on him. He’s told me on countless occasions that she’s not just a gossip, but the kind of woman who likes to “bang two heads together” – I wasn’t quite sure what he meant by this then. But what do I do, she keeps calling me, and I feel bad if I don’t take her calls; and besides everyone needs someone to talk to and I happen to be her listening ear.

You know my husband has been going from one Job interview after another, and in this current climate, it’s become quite impossible to get a very good position. And besides, the current house market is booming here in England, and getting on the property ladder has been very difficult as we just don’t even have enough money saved up for the deposit. We have to live in a shared apartment with three other families, so that we can at least stand a chance of being able to save some deposit and also be able to get some of our baby things together. I am really not sure what the future holds, and I’m not sure if I made the right decision.

In doing what she asked. Oh you know, I responded, getting married so young, getting pregnant so early. Maybe I should have waited. Maybe we should have waited. I am at a cross road, and out of options.

Well I can tell you, she spoke, in a disdain, and equally conceited manner, “I don’t know why you’re letting it all bother you, I blame your useless husband. I don’t know why he hasn’t been able to find a job. Look at my boo, he’s the hardest working man I know and he’s never been out of work. I mean, why get married only to make your life unbearable. As if it wasn’t enough that he placed you in a shared apartment with three other families, he also had to get you pregnant. See the way I see it, you only have one option. Leave his lazy behind and come stay with us. You’re way too young to have all this stress. It’s not good for you and not for your little one either.

After speaking with her, I felt a little encouraged. My situation was not as hopeless as it appeared. I felt wonderful, better still I felt hopeful. I had a bright future. And as I watched my husband sleep through the night I couldn’t help but be irritated with the loud snores that emanated through his mouth. Oh how I hated his snoring, but come to think of it, I never realised he snored this loudly.

Bright and early the next day, as I pondered over the conversation last night, I couldn’t help but be filled with a sense of hate, a sense of waste. “What has love done for me?” I spoke out loudly. “Seriously, only a messed up life, a lazy husband, and a child on the way that we cannot afford”!  Juju is not such a bad person after all. Now I know why my husband disliked her so much. She could give me what he could never ever give me. Hope for the future. I have made up my mind, and I must leave before he comes back to find me missing.

It was a short drive to Juju’s place, very well situated and such an imposing sight. But there was no sign of her. There was a note and a set of keys left inside the pot plant next to the main front door. It read:

 “Emergency meeting, was called out to Barcelona for an urgent project that needed my attention. It will only take give or take a few months. I’ve instructed the cleaners and the cooks that you might be coming and to take great care of you, hopefully should be back before the baby arrives. Take a much deserved rest and eat well

How thoughtful of Juju I said, she’s truly a dear friend. I let myself in and made myself very comfortable. After my afternoon nap, I could see Mr T, had tried to ring me “50 missed calls” – give me a break I continued. I left him a voicemail saying; “Do not try to reach me, I’m leaving you, and I’m leaving the country. I don’t know when I will be back. The worst mistake I ever made was getting married to you. I can see it all clearly now”. I got one of the cooks to get me a new Sim, got rid of the old one and made a mental note to remember to send the new number to Juju. I thought I’d wait a little while before informing my family. I don’t really want them involved at the moment.

After seven weeks of pure relaxation, seclusion and sheer pampering, I wondered why I still hadn’t heard from Juju. I simply assumed that work and a very busy schedule had prevented her from making contact this past few months, but still surely she should have contacted me by now. I was a little worried, but still optimistic. I no longer wanted to stay indoors with my thoughts, and felt the need to pop out and maybe get a few more things for my little one who was now due any day now. As I came out of my car, in the spot where I parked it, who was it that beheld my eyes, my darling husband, whose hands were held by my dear friend Juju, who was lovingly embracing him while running her fingers through his hair. I see her rubbing his shoulders and patting him on his back as they took each step.

As they walked closer, I felt numb, unable to move, legs frozen at the very spot I was standing. I wasn’t sure what was happening. Wasn’t sure if I had dreamt it, if it was happening, if my mind was playing tricks on me, if I was imagining it. So many things were running through my mind, but I did remember mumbling out loud “Juju how could you. Juju how could you”, I kept on repeating. Over and over and over again. Mr T looked at me, with tears running down his cheek  said to me, I didn’t know I was the worst mistake of your life. I could see he could barely look at me, it was too painful. As he tried to walk away Juju tried to follow him, at which I said to Juju, why are you following my husband? Then Mr T turned and said to me, when you left me, she was there to pick up the pieces of my broken life. I was hospitalised and she visited me, never leaving my side. I was hungry and she made sure I had plenty to eat. And every day of these past seven weeks, she has always been there, encouraging my broken heart and helping me to see my way through the darkness. I am now back on my feet. I now have a well-paying job, and have now been able to purchase our 5 bedroom dream home. I bought it to prove to myself that I was not the lazy, useless man you thought I was.

He had barely finished saying the words, when I felt limp, falling at the very spot I was standing and my waters broke.


I know long story as always  🙂

But this happens every-time, there are scheming people who disguise themselves as well-meaning folks who are out to wreak havoc.

 Don’t let anyone deceive you. Associating with bad people will ruin decent people. [GWT] – 1 Corinthians 15:33

A devious person spreads quarrels. A gossip separates the closest of friends. [GWT] – Proverbs 16:28

Mr T warned his wife of Juju’s gossiping and medelling ways, but she wouldn’t listen, and when she was at the lowest point of her life, her so called dear friend advised her of a better life without her husband and she believed it, instead of asking herself the motives behind such well-meaning advice. She had to learn a terrible lesson in a painful way, but did she deserve it I wonder? I wonder what will become of her now. No friend to take care of her, a loved child in a terrible situation, and a husband who no longer trusts her. If she was not so gullible / had she known about the schemes of Juju, I wondered would she have knowingly left her loving husband. We need to be very careful whom we listen to, or call our dearest friend.

Have an awsome week and HAPPY FRIDAY EVERYONE!

 The proverbs of Solomon, David’s son who was king of Israel, given to grasp wisdom and discipline, to understand deep thoughts, to acquire the discipline of wise behaviorrighteousness and justice and fairness— to give insight to gullible people, to give knowledge and foresight to the younga wise person will listen and continue to learn, and an understanding person will gain direction .. [GWT] – Proverbs 1:1-5

Dream Big Con artists

ImagePursue your dreams. They will come through. Dream big; go in the way of your dreams. Oh shut up for goodness sake, whose dreams have come true? Tell me? My friend Kisha, had dreams of owning her very own retail company and all kinds of outlets just like Ms Mera, Serena was supposed to be Wales answer to Ms Vergara S, and Jon B, My mate Jon B was such a computer wiz in high school we could have sworn he would be bigger than our hommie Bill G. But where are they now. Where? Stuck in a runt, a 9 to 5 job, living from pay check to pay check just striving to survive and you’re up her blowing up my FB and twitter pages with illusions of success. Now stop it already. Why don’t you go on and dream big yourself.


A word is enough for the wise I tell you, if you’re wise you will stop all this nonsense about dream big and focus on the reality. I’ll let you in on a secret though, all this dream big “band wagons” are stories concocted by the successful people to deceive you. YES I tell you, what a wicked wicked deceit. You’re quietly happy getting along with your life and like walking into a door, they start hitting you with all kinds of motivational sturves. You then start getting all these ideas, of how you were born to be great, achieve success, that there is hope, that you must never give up, that you should look beyond where you are, that your future is paved with gold. Gold! GOLD! Did I hear them say Gold? If everyone in the world’s future was paved with gold, then gold will not have any value. Quote me anywhere! Gold will be valueless. So stop it already! Stop having a laugh at my expense.

No, I will not be sucked in by ideas created by the wealthy for the wealthy. I have decided to accept my life as it is, and carry on until I die like this. I came with nothing and so I go with nothing.

Deidre, Deidre, Deidre

O my goodness, is that my name someone is calling out for?

OK now stop it already!


Now who’s that person that’s going on as if the world owes them a living, or rather that God owes them a living. If you can’t see yourself being a success, then I think it’s best you keep that kind of thinking to yourself, because some of us want to be successful thank you 🙂 . Every success story always starts with a beginning. Even those born wealthy, must have had a generation before them who weren’t, and if they didn’t top up on the money themselves, they will soon know what it is to be without. [A little extra sleep, a little more slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest— then poverty will pounce on you like a bandit; scarcity will attack you like an armed robber. [NLT] Proverbs 24:33-34].

Even when we were in high school, if you didn’t believe you could ace through a class and worked towards making sure you passed your exams, you didn’t pass the exams. The same applies to the “Dream big theory”. If you didn’t believe that you would succeed, and worked hard towards that belief, in all honesty it won’t happen. And you can’t believe that you could do it, if you didn’t see yourself doing it. And you can’t only see it and believe it, you must work your way into making it a reality.

I will stand my watch And set myself on the rampart, And watch to see what He will say to me, And what I will answer when I am corrected. Then the Lord answered me and said: “Write the vision And make it plain on tablets, That he may run who reads it. For the vision is yet for an appointed time; But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie. Though it tarries, wait for it; Because it will surely come, It will not tarry. [NKJV] – Habakkuk 2:1-3

So you have a complaint and you’ve decided to speak about it to anyone that would listen, even the Lord told you the answer to that complaint in Habakkuk 2:2-3. WRITE out all the things you want to do in order to be successful, and work on them. He didn’t say walk slowly with them, He said RUN WITH THEM. Give yourself no break, and soon you will see it all become established like the tallest tree in the world. The coast redwood J. The successful people will probably tell you that’s the secret to their success, and that what their “peddling” is no deceit at all. BUT THE TRUTH! So why don’t you give your dream another chance. You never know, this season could be your season of becoming that next “Role model” the world is looking for. It may look like it’s never going to happen, because of where you are right now, but in no time your dream will spring fort out of the nothingness. Don’t give up on your DREAMS. You OWE IT YOU YOURSELF to succeed. Period.

His People, my people

ImageI sat next to him, it felt right. I felt his loving embrace, I knew I loved him very much, and I didn’t have to doubt he loved me more. Cuddled together after our heavy afternoon lunch, he slept, I slept. We are both deep sleepers, and we would normally poke fun at one another saying, after we get married, if ever a fire alarm was to ever go off we would never hear it, laughing as we teased one another, always in agreement how it meant we would go to heaven together at the same time.

Silly notions, silly notions indeed!!

I woke up, in his loving embrace, happy, content, just glad to be there. It felt as if it was still day, but it was morning, in the early hours of the morning to be more precise. And then he said to me, I have noticed that the few times you’ve stopped over for lunch, you seem to fall into a deep sort of sleep, where you seem to be doing an awful lot of screaming and fighting; but it always seems you are the victor. I was puzzled, especially since he’s supposed to be a deep sleeper. I wondered to myself, these fights must be strange and must be very loud indeed. I went home and prayed, and asked the Lord for help, for revelation, for direction. He told me that there was a mark, an insertion of a kind; in a form of a tube on the body of the man that I loved that seem to emanate a lot of attacks whenever I travel to the land of the nod only during the times I stopped by. And so I went back and asked him if he had a mark or an insertion on the right lower part of his shoulder. He told me that he happened upon it one day, and had tried to remove it through a very costly operation, which he nearly died from, and that the insertion had refused to move.

I went back and prayed again and asked the Lord why the insertion had refused to move, and why the process of removal nearly took his life. I was told that it was because he is married to six women, and none of them will let him go. And so I went back to his, knocked on his door, but it appeared that his apartment that was once full of light was now covered in darkness. I could hear him shout out that he was coming, but it looked like there were no signs of life in the place. But he came out, and opened the door. I could see that glint in his eyes that always seem to appear whenever I came knocking. I knew how much he loved me, and loved him so much more than I told myself.  He opened his door, and we exchanged our wonderful pleasantries, I told him I had a dream and wanted to ask him a question. He told me he also had a dream, and immediately blurted his out, saying he saw a small river that grew into an ocean that made it impossible for our two lands to meet. I sighed, and asked him, if he was married. He told me that it was the normal traditions of his people back in Africa to marry wives on behalf of their sons, to help in the progress of the family, but as far as he was concerned he had no dealings with them, and wants nothing to do with them. I couldn’t understand this. He was the last son of seven brothers and sisters, of which there were three grown men. He was barely 26 and six women already!! On hearing this, I immediately sprung up from the stool I sat on, and began to make my way to the door. He tried reaching for me, but knew he could no longer get me to stay. I walked and kept walking and did not look back again.

I had no questions of his love for God. Indeed he did, and does. But what of his people, what kind of people were they? His affiliations with the six women were indeed in his past and I was his present, but what kind of home would mine have been? How could his people be my people when these people have plunged such a young man into a life of strife and deceit?  Love or no Love, His God may be my God, but how can his people be my people. There are some battles I am prepared to stand and fight, but there are some I have no business being involved in.


A deep sigh,

You’re probably thinking, Life of a stranger you’ve come again with your FANTASTIC stories, but let’s think about this, ponder upon, muse over it, for a moment, just a moment :). As controversial as it may be, DOES LOVE ACTUALLY CONQUER ALL? Is there any such thing as love in Tokyo, in Europe, in Kafanchan 🙂 ? In my story, we see a young man whose family has married for him 6 wives back home in Africa, and he’s in love with one, the one the family has yet to see / agree upon. Armed with this knowledge, if say for the sake of this post you were in such a predicament, will you ever agree to such an arrangement where as far as you’re concerned, as long as he loves only me, and is not interested in the 6, then that’s all that matters?

So if the story comes over as too good to be true, will you knowingly enter into an agreement with foreknowledge that his/her family will NEVER EVER ACCEPT YOU? And if say they do and would love you to be the 7th :), are you prepared to abide to their way of life?

I am back blogging, welcome back to me 🙂

Happy Friday Everyone


Truly indeed the word of the Lord is true. Many are not enjoying the benefits of their newly found liberation / entitlement due to ignorance. Why do you say? I am about to share a little story with you.

My dear dear friends were finally getting married in Spain after three years of engagement. The cathedral they wanted was fully booked in 2008, and the only available slots were after August 2011, and thus we waited. They decided to splash out a bit on their guests by putting us up in a full star hotel, with all the trimmings that came along and we lacked nothing. Except that I didn’t know that. All I knew was I had found myself in a very expensive hotel. I remember collecting the keys to my room, and was shocked when I approached the room they had reserved for me. I did remember I didn’t sleep well through the night, because I was so hot. I remember waking up to noises which appeared to be made by kids having a good time, but I thought nothing of it.

It was an evening affair, and so I had the whole day to wander about. After strolling in the sun, and the intense humidity, I was feeling a little bit exasperated and desperately wanted a really cool condition. And even though my room was rather nice, all I could think of was home. And so I waited! Finally the hour came. I was reunited with friends and was in the company of great companions, and so the topic of the exquisite hotel came into the conversation! And there it happened. I was informed of all the benefits that came with the key, and that my lovely room had air condition ;), swimming pool, spa, and much more! Unlimited internet, dare I go on! And immediately I became disappointed.

Now, because it was an evening affair, when we returned back to the hotel the next morning at 3.30am (Did I mention it was an evening affair and the church service started at 8pm). Yes where was I? these friends of mine actually came along with me to show me where exactly they all were. And making sure my room was at a good temperature before they left for their rooms. However a question they left with me was, how come you didn’t call the porter to ask him? I was a little glum, naturally I would, but this wasn’t a business trip I exclaimed! Ahh! there you went wrong, Its Matteo and Inma’s gift for showing up at their celebration! I had only a couple more hours before catching my return bus back to Madrid airport that morning, and as I pondered upon my turn of events, I couldn’t help but wonder upon a thought! Indeed this is how many of us are with the things of God.

Isn’t it interesting how God has told us time and time again in his word what He has made available to us. Who we are in Him, and the power we capable of controlling, only if we excersises it. The Lord has given us access to unlimited benefits, simply because we have come to His saving grace. And yet many of us have yet to experience those benefits because we don’t even know they exist. Many have seen it, have heard of it, but are still yet to enter into it. Let’s no longer continue to live in this way. We are more than the life we are leading. We have been given much more than we currently have. We have been created for greatness!

It is my prayer that the Holy Spirit will help us to discover who we are in the Word of God! It is my prayer that we will not make this discovery too late (like I did in my example). We are still marching forward! We are still on course. Total victory is ours. Hallelujah Total victory is sure!

You are more than this!

Today, I felt the need to mow my parent’s lawn. Accordingly, my brother got the mower out, got all the chords safely tied in place, and showed me a piece of garden I could run through. And so I began. I remembered in my younger years when I wanted to show to my brothers why whatever they could do I could do ten times better, and that I was no sissy, no girl but a boy like them. I remembered when going beyond the tall three in the middle was a mark of an accomplishment, and how when you’ve gone beyond was indeed worthy of some accolade. And so I began on the lawn. I had barely gone 40 inches, when I started praying in the Holy Spirit, asking God to help me before I fell down helpless on the lawn while my baby brother cheered me along. After a few more, I couldn’t help but stop. I hadn’t reached the apple tree, let alone the tall tree in the middle or even the beyond. I had nothing to prove to anyone I said to myself and encouraged myself that when mummy comes home she would be so proud of what I’ve done. And proceeded to go and work on my computer instead.

Some Sundays ago, the senior pastor in my church – Pastor Kolade Oyinlade – ministered to us on the importance of seeing and the importance of entering into your inheritance. Seeing it, is just the beginning, you have to enter into it as well. I saw the vast land, saw the trees, and the entire wild berries. I saw the wild grass that has somewhat encroached into our back garden. As large as it was, I remembered how beautiful it once was, and it should be. I saw a beautiful landscape, and remembered how it ought to be.

It doesn’t matter how tired you’ve become because of the magnitude of what you have seen, and are believing God for. The bible tells us in Isaiah 40:30-31– Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. The Lord who is our strong Tower is faithful beyond descriptions. He is too marvellous for words. He, who is the glory of your life, never sleeps or slumbers. He can never never get tired. It is impossible. So don’t worry if you’re feeling a little exhausted, a little bewildered, a little confused, a little anxious, even the bible tells us that it is possible to grow tired and weary. But remember the Lord encourages you that, because you hope in Him, it doesn’t matter what state you are in at the moment, He is more than able to renew your strength, He will make you soar on wings like eagles. Do you know what that means? This is what happens to those that don’t give up. Their latter will always be greater than their former.

After such an eventful day, my parent’s lawn was mowed. Don’t just see it, enter into it. Don’t just believe it walk into it. Don’t just assume it, live it. Don’t let the enemy trick you into believing you can’t have what you see, and thus making you give up on what you have seen. Don’t let the enemy bully you into believing that what you see is too big for God to do for you! Please don’t give the enemy a chance to show you a mediocre alternative. There is nothing too impossible for God to do (Genesis 18:14). There is nothing God cannot do. My life is a living testimony of that fact and truth.

Don’t give up on the vision; don’t give up on the promise. You are more than this! You have been created for greatness! Go and become it.